Tune In

The call has finally come. My husband has to take another trip(read deployment). I knew it wouldn't be long before he had to depart again. It's part of the territory. In a way I am used to him leaving all the time and in a way I will never get used to it. I know that sounds funny but I guess until you experience it there just isn't words to describe it.

Getting ready for this trip is different than the last few. My husband won't need to take many things with him so packing hasn't consumed 3-4 days at our house, only a few hours. We still did need to take a trip to Target to get the few items that he would need while he is gone.



While we were at Target, one of my favorite stores, we were looking at music. My husband and I differ on the types of music we listen to. We both like each others music choices, it's just not our first choice for what we listen to individually. Browsing through some CD's I said to Ted "HEY! What's the name of that one song that I like?" Laughing to myself after I said that and thinking he will reply with "what one song?", but to my surprise he came back with the title and the artist and knew exactly what song I was talking about. Now that is being in tune with your spouse.

We have struggled over the past few weeks to get past the honeymoon phase of re-deployment and find our groove. I know that's a struggle that most military couples have. I also know that we will get through it. One complaint I had and I talked with my husband about was feeling like I didn't matter. What I said didn't matter, what I did didn't matter and I felt like a robot could come in and take my place and no one would notice that I was gone. WELLLLL, I realized that night at Target that my husband does listen, he does pay attention and get things when I say them, I just don't always see it. For my husband to come up with the exact song that I was looking for without many details other than it's a song I like(which could be many songs because I love music) that shows me that we are more in tune with each other than I thought.

The big things are easy to get and to see it's the little things that we need to take in and remember. That night at Target, though it may sound silly to some, will help me get through these next few weeks of deployment. I am never ready to let him go but I know the sooner we start the count down the sooner he gets to come home. Upon my husbands return home I will remember to tune in and look for the little things, The things that make a this girls heart skip a beat and catch me off guard. Remember those little things. Hold tight to them during separations and remember that no matter how long of a trip it may be you are one day closer to being together.